I could not be MORE EXCITED that the conversation about this is opening up, again.

It all started when a wonderful woman named Ayelet Waldman wrote an essay a few years ago about loving her husband more than her kids. I was pregnant with a two year old, and I had found a new hero!!!!



Ayelet Waldman has a new book out -- and says "I believe that mothers should tell the truth, even--no, especially--when the truth is difficult."

Halleluiah sista! I do too.

Like Ayelet I love my husband more than my kids. And if that is "bad" -- I don't wanna be "good."

But like Ayelet, I wonder why I feel so alone in this thought. Could life be all that ok when spent with palms grasped so tightly on the helicopter controls?? Or are all these women lying about how wonderful spending every waking moment with toddlers and babies is? Why would any woman lie so much? I can't make any sense of why anyone might feel compelled to say something just because it is "expected" of them. But I think it happens. A lot, right???

I can't wait to read her new book: Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace

Having kids is just not the end all be all (ask anyone who has chosen not to have them....or can't.....somehow they make it through life everyday)

Well, gotta go off to my "Three Martini Playdate" -- sans the kids... : )